To My Daughter on the Day of Your Adoption, by Jamie

To my daughter on the day of your adoption,

I’ve called you by that label, “daughter,” many times. But today is different.

Today there’s no prefix, no subtext, no “sort of but not really” as there have always been before. You’re not my foster daughter, I don’t love you “like you’re my own.” Today you are wholly, completely, for forever my daughter. Nothing is changing, but everything is changing.

I shook with nervous excitement as I opened the door to you the first time, my maybe-temporary, maybe-forever daughter. We were each other’s first “placement.” You had never known another mother, and I had never cared for a child I hadn’t first carried. You sat in the middle of my living room, looking too scared to even move. You clung to me with tear-filled eyes like your life depended on it, like some stranger would come and take you away from me, too. And my heart clung to you just the same, continually aware of the risk of loving you, continually aware that you may leave.

Every couple of months since you’ve entered our home, I’ve marveled at who you’re becoming, at how much you’ve grown. I’ve seen you overcome your fears and insecurities, seen you press into people rather than away from them, seen you progress and grow. I keep thinking you’ve “arrived” only to see you come even further. You continually amaze me.

I will always remember the day that you told me you loved me. You climbed on my lap, kissed me, and said those precious words. I returned the kiss and repeated the words, as I had so many times before. But this time I had tears in my eyes.

Over the past two years, I’ve watched the residue of your past neglect, which I thought would cling forever, wash away. You’ve become someone I never expected you to be.

This day, this adoption day, is one of the happiest days of my life. Today, I become your mother. Today, you become my daughter.

Happy Adoption Day, my dear daughter, I love you.

Love,

Mommy

 

Jamie is the biological, adoptive, and foster mother of six children. She is the author of Foster the Family Blog, which is read by 50,000 people each month and has been featured in over 20 online and print publications. Jamie is passionate about encouraging and equipping foster and adoptive parents, inspiring people to get involved in foster care and adoption, and advocating for foster children. To learn more about Jamie, visit: www.fosterthefamilyblog.com.

One thought on “To My Daughter on the Day of Your Adoption, by Jamie

  1. Me vi reflejada en cada una de tus palabras, también tuve la dicha de convertirme en mama para siempre de mi primer y único foster baby. Nos mudamos de Estados Unidos y lamentablemente aquí en Argentina las cosas no funcionan como debería respecto a la niñez y adopcion.
    Nuestra experiencia en Usa nos dio este maravilloso regalo que agradecemos día a día 💕💕

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