Keep Going, Don’t Give Up: Encouragement for the Adoption & Foster Community

The day has arrived. National Adoption Awareness Month has officially started. Hard to believe that it’s here!

Time moves by so fast, doesn’t it?

2018 has been filled with some tough moments and extraordinary challenges. If this year has been hard on you and on those you love, I understand.

The daily stresses of life layered with the anxiety and anticipation that often come with November and Adoption Awareness Month can be a lot.

Feelings and emotions can be heightened. Triggers come out of nowhere.

I have my own triggers. On this past Tuesday, it was my birthmother’s birthday. I phoned her where she lives, in England. She answered and we spoke softly to one another.

“Are you okay, my darling?” She asked.

“I’m okay, Mum. And, you?”

“I’m alright. Of course, if I wasn’t I wouldn’t tell anyone.”

“You’re tough, I know.” I replied.

“You know, love, I have you so much in my mind and heart as the days go by.”

“Thank you for saying that, Mum. I’m learning in my life that love cannot be separated. As much as people will try to tear love apart, they can’t. They never could. Never will. That’s why I’m calling on your birthday. To tell you just how much I love you.”

“You’re quite right, my darling. And, I love you lots.”

I hung up the phone and broke down in tears. I wanted to be there, in England, hugging Mum. That’s not been my life experience, though. I’ve had to hold her and hug her from afar. I’ve had to love her across the miles. In my own way.

It’s been the most challenging thing in my life. Adoption. There have been times when I wanted to just give up. The weight of hurt and loneliness seemed too heavy to carry. I know you understand what I’m saying.

Lately, there’s been one little phrase that continually speaks to my heart. One little message that shows up daily. I notice it being scribbled down in my journal and on notepads by my laptop. My friends and family members have been saying this phrase, too. I’ve been saying it to myself.

Now, I say it to you:

Keep Going. Don’t Give Up.

There’s going to be a day, or days, during Adoption Awareness Month when you’ll want to bury your head in the sand. You’ll feel like hiding. Don’t, though. Open your heart. Make a call. Cry. Share. Mostly, let love guide you. Feel the truth of who you are.

Don’t run from the challenges. These things don’t just appear out of the clear blue sky. They arrive just when you’re ready to grow. When you’re ready to expand and be more of who you really are. I was afraid to phone my birthmother today. Scared of rejection. But I did it. I faced that fear, moved through it, and I learned more about who I really am.

You are so much stronger than you realize.

This Adoption Awareness month, be kind to yourself. Just listen to your heart. Rest when you can. Don’t forget to laugh sometimes.

But above all…

Keep Going. Don’t Give Up.

When you have faith and hold gratitude in your heart-of-hearts, and when you keep doing what you can—little-by-little everything changes. I know it may not feel like it, but it’s true. You are getting better and better and better. You’re growing. And, with those changes and with that growth you are impacting those around you in beautiful ways. You are becoming more of who you really are.

Don’t ever forget that.

Take good care of yourself and of those you love during Adoption Awareness Month.

You’re not alone.





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