If there is one thing I know for sure, it’s this: the adoption community is a healthier one when its experiences and stories are shared out loud. We’ve learned, over many years, that silencing the voices and perceptions of those within our community will never help to forge deeper levels of understanding and inclusion.
What was once thought as a healthy choice: distancing adoptees from the truth of their birth stories, is now known to be of great disadvantage to their overall well-being. We’ve learned the importance of supporting and hearing all members of the adoption triad. We’ve arrived to an empowering place within the adoption conversation as we speak this declaration: the adoption community will no longer be treated as a secret society.
Every member of this community — adoptee, adoptive parent, and birth parent — has a story that needs to be heard. We’re standing up, speaking up, and sharing truths that were once kept in the shadows. It’s a brand new day!
In honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, I have launched a new Facebook group called, Adoption Out Loud. This group exists as a channel of communication for all those touched by adoption. No matter the experience, or point of view, there is a place for everyone here.
Adoption Out Loud represents a safe space and an opportunity to expand our community’s ability to understand and to be understood. When we share our voices, authentically and respectfully, we heal and we grow.
As we nurture this Adoption Out Loud community, I envision that we also will expand our empathy for one another, and grasp more fully what has been lost and gained through each individual adoption journey. There is much to share: years of silence about to be spoken. No matter your adoption generation, and no matter how adoption has impacted your life; we welcome your point of view.
As I recently asked within a November essay for Adopt A Love Story (an adoption crowd-funding platform), “How can we show up as a community that uplifts, even if we don’t always see eye-to-eye? How can we offer our respect, even when we don’t understand? Who will we choose to be in 2018? These are quality questions to contemplate as we approach a new and exciting year in the adoption arena.”
My goal is for this Facebook group, Adoption Out Loud, to be a vital part of the adoption conversation. There will be special offerings for our members and opportunities to connect as we walk this path together. I’m enthusiastic to begin and I look forward to meeting each one of you within the group.
To become a member of the community, click here.